You didn’t choose this life.
But you still get to choose how you live it.
Let’s figure out what comes next — together.
Ember & Bloom is built on a simple truth.
When your person dies, the love doesn't.
That love is the ember. It doesn't go out. It lives in you — in the coffee you drink each morning, in the jokes you still hear, in the way you keep going even on the days when getting out of bed is everything you have.
Your job is not to leave that ember behind. Your job is to tend it. To keep it warm. To let it be the thing that warms you.
And from that same warmth — slowly, gently, in your own time — something new can grow.
Not instead of your grief. Not after it.
From it.
That is what it means to bloom.
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A Simple Morning Plan for Widows
The mornings can feel impossible sometimes.
This gentle guide offers a few small steps to help you begin the day when grief feels heavy.
You are not broken. But I know it can feel that way.
You might notice things like:
• Trouble focusing
• Deep exhaustion
• Feeling numb one moment and overwhelmed the next
• Losing interest in things that once mattered
• Feeling like you are not the same person anymore
Nothing is wrong with you.
Your whole life changed, so of course you feel different.
These changes happen because grief
affects your body, your mind, and
your daily life in ways no one really explains.
Most widows are left trying to figure it out alone.
I know this place. I am a widow.
When my husband Gary died, nothing made sense.
I remember thinking, how am I still here when he’s not.
I also know what it feels like to have someone sit with you in it.
Not to fix it. Not to rush it. Just to understand.
With twenty years of experience coaching people through their hardest seasons, my own lived experience as a widow, and the guidance of coaches who have walked this road themselves — I know what it means to sit with someone in a dark place and help them find their way forward.
If you are carrying this alone, it can feel exhausting.
When you have no one who truly understands…
When everyone else seems to be moving on…
When you keep second guessing yourself…
It wears you down.
You do not have to keep doing this by yourself.
I offer a free 45-minute conversation called Holding the Ember.
A space to talk, to be heard, and to begin sorting through what this life looks like now.
A simple way to begin….
We talk
We figure out what you need
You take one small step at a time