You’re Allowed to Be Exactly Where You Are

You might think you should be stronger by now.
You might feel like you should “move on.”
You might feel like you should not still miss him this much.

We hear this everywhere.
Be strong.
Keep going.
Smile more.

But the truth is simple.
It is okay to still miss him.
It is okay to love him and miss him forever.
That does not mean you are stuck.
It means your love is real.

There is no gold star for being strong.
There is no prize for “moving on.”
There is no right or wrong way to carry this love and pain.

You can feel deep grief and still laugh at something funny.
You can feel joy and still cry when you see his favorite snack at the store.
You can love your life and still wish he was here.

You do not have to pick.
You can hold both.
Grief and life.
Tears and smiles.
Heavy and light.

When you let yourself be where you are, you give your heart room to breathe.
You stop fighting your own feelings.
You stop trying to rush yourself into some place you are not ready to go.

When you do this, you see that you are not failing.
You are loving.
You are living.
You are finding your way, one small step at a time.

You are allowed to be exactly where you are.
Right now.
Today.